Several people I know (I may or may not be included in this group) are in limbo about their jobs and job situations right now. I think it's a combination of being in their mid 20's, being a little resentful that they're not where they wanted or expected to be at this point and a little ambivalent about where they even want their career paths to take them...and the fact that it's really hot out these days. Seriously, how can you be motivated to work hard and pretend to love your job when it's either so muggy out you want to dive into the nearest fountain with all of your clothes on or it's so nice out that you keep staring out the window (if you're lucky enough to have one!) and counting down the hours until your outdoor lunch or fun happy hour or pretty much any other activity that's bound to be more exciting than work comes along!?!?!?
Regardless of the factors involved, I've heard some of my friends describe their work situations as the following: "OMG-this-is-not-what-I-want-to-be-doing-with-my-life-but-I-am-so-broke-it's-not-even-funny...I-am-just-trying-to-make-some-money-and-I'll-be-happy-when-something-better-comes-along!" These people graduated from college, had career-oriented majors but may have veered off the traditional or expected career path (or taken the road less traveled, if you want to be poetic about it). They are now working to support their spending, hoping and maybe even looking to find something better, and it's quite likely that they hate their jobs and feel unmotivated/uninspired/bored most of the time. When people say things like "At least you have a job in this economy - be thankful!" - they cringe.
Rightfully so, I say.
We are generation Y (aren't we?). People have written books about how we feel so entitled because we all grew up getting trophies and awards and positive feedback from our parents and "you can do anything you want" speeches. Seriously, look up "generation Y books" on Amazon.com and the book titles range from "Not Everyone Gets a Trophy," to "Managing the 'Me First' Generation," etc. (Proof)
And though maybe it's true that we are the "me" generation and it's ridiculous to feel entitled to X amount of money or X kind of high-profile job after having been in the "work force" for less than five years (!!!), we have seen people our age and only a few years older achieve such amazing things (Facebook, anyone?) that we strive to stand out, be better, find a quick fix so we're not like all the other so and so's. But we might not always have that million dollar idea or the energy or motivation to work so hard for it, and we are secretly hoping for it to fall into our laps. I don't mean to be overly critical of my generation, but I guess that's what I am being. I'll admit though, that even I sort of feel like I am "owed" something, or there's some magic measure of my success/happiness that I'm (damn it!) not reaching, but should be. My fiance and I have literally sat in front of the computer trying to think of business ideas that could get us rich...quick! We've seen it happen so much that we've almost convinced ourselves that we deserve this, just because we are smart and educated and really, really, ridiculously good looking. I mean, really.
This fiance of mine recently sent me an article called "10 Attitudes of Successful Workers," which basically says it's all about your attitude. I think I am inclined to agree. When I want to be miserable at work, I make myself be miserable at work. When I've given up, I decide to stop learning - I already know it all since I'm a Generation Y-er anyway - and I don't appreciate the little things I like about my job because I am so dead set on looking for the next-best thing. It's a vicious cycle - am I making my work experience miserable or is work making me miserable? It can certainly be a combination of both, but I've been trying these last couple of days to follow these 10 shiny, happy pieces of advice, and I've noticed that when I try to influence my attitude to be more positive work is a better place to be.
So, I suggest checking out the article and seeing if any of that works for you, no matter what generation you are or where in your career path you might be. If there's something that's working or not working for you at work,(could I use that word any more in this sentence!?)please share! I think the four people following this blog could really benefit from someone else's advice! And with that, I am going to take my overdue lunch break and enjoy the beautiful weather (thankfully it's not a jump in a fountain with your clothes on kind of day), and when I get back I will be ready to dive back into work and maybe actually enjoy it...a little!
I also recently read an article that talked about taking a 21 day challenge. The basic concept is that you wear a Live Strong-esque bracelet and each time you start complaining again, you have to switch it back to the other hand and start over. The only out is that if you complain, you have to offer a solution to the problem you are complaning about.
ReplyDeleteFor example: doing other people's expense reports really takes away from my other, more important tasks. Solution: Take an active step, talk to my boss about the other things I COULD accomplish that would be beneficial to her, if I didnt have to do expense reports anymore.
Basically, I can now complain all I want...I just have to find a way to solve it. Hopefully one day I'll run out of things to complain about :)
Also, check out the book the 4 Hour Work Week. I thought it was stupid when I saw the title, but then people I respected started saying it was a good book. So...do it.
Ms. Johnson,
ReplyDeleteI like your proactive approach. I would have a hard time being so disciplined, but it makes sense. Complaints put negativity out there to circulate, but if you can add humor to the complaint, or if others can relate to it (and if there is drinking involved...like a happy hour setting), then complaining can quickly turn into a positive thing that allows you to vent and relate to others and find silliness in the little things that might get you down about your job. Another great idea is to watch Office Space over and over again until every work situation you might encounter in a cubicle job becomes a joke that everyone gets. For example, expense reports become TPS reports, and you make sure everyone "got the memo." This might not work for everyone, but for me, work life often boils down to brief snippets of Office Space.
I have also heard good things about the 4 hour work week book, and I would like to check it out. Thanks for the tip!
Good luck with your problem solving, and keep your head up! I think your positive approach will help keep those bothersome things from eating away at you, and can at least help you focus on what you like about your job or save you time from complaining to find another job!